There is nothing wrong in people asking you about your partner. As in, who wouldn't want to get to know the person your friend is so in love with. What makes him/her special, and maybe you just want to know how are things between the two of them. It definitely annoys when that person doesn't ask anything about yourself but solely prods questions on your partner.
"How is he today?", instead of asking how are you today.
"Why didn't you go out with him? Is it because he's busy?"
"Why didn't he call you at night"
What is his favourite food?"
"How's his family?"
"Yesterday I chatted with him, I didn't know that he hates dancing."
"How is she at her new workplace?"
"Your guy looks cute wearing that red shirt. Where did he get it from?"
It might sound like routine questions to you, but sooner or later, you'll notice who these kinds of people are. So, how do we handle them? I am no relationship Guru, but I'll just share with you what I've done so far.
1) Answer the question indirectly.
Act as if you didn't hear the question and move on to another topic. Most of the time feigning helps and the person will move forward. For instance if the person asks "How is she today?", I'll answer "We went swimming yesterday and we're doing fine." It is as if I'm hinting to the person.
2) Be open with your thoughts
If the questions keeps on coming repeatedly about my partner, I'll question him back asking why is he so concerned. But in a non-provoking, humorous manner of course. Most will take the hint and stop. Those who don't are plain idiots. Period.
3) Gun onto them questions about their own partners.
After you answered some of the questions, how about giving them a taste of their own medicine? What they miss is the law of physics that states "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction".
Oh well.
If you have any suggestions, do comment and I'll post it up. Its for the greater good of mankind.
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