The Grass is Always Greener on the other Side of the Fence. In Wikitionary (an unreliable source, but the explanation seems reasonable), it states:
Other people’s circumstances seem more desirable than one’s own.
You could put it in a relationship context, in everyday life, your career and other things. But for now, let's relate to b-g relationships where I spend a good part of my life in.
There's this friend of mine. Who at every moment we meet, he'd tell me how he wished to have my kind of lifestyle. Stable relationship, no detours (detours == women in this context), good education and only a handful of super close knit buddies to upkeep. Initially I do not understand what he meant (come on, with so many women in your life, it must be heaven!), but as time goes by, I'm slowly grasping the deep meaning underlying his sayings.
Sure, my grass might be greener to him, but if you were to ask me, I wished my life had been easier to bear. Stable and long relationships are good, but you gotta admit that it might have been foolish to put aside your younger years to get to know more people. You wished you could've met someone with a complete package. Perhaps, who knows with a stroke of luck, you could find someone who shares a similar interest (In my case, gaming, outdoors, swimming, camping, diving, cycling, fixing stuff, navigation) or much more physically pleasant.
Secondly, long term relationships starts usually when you are young, and you are not as mature and your intentions on why you get yourself in this relationship can change over time. First you might get into one because you need someone to go out or study with (O-levels, A-levels, Diploma), then perhaps into someone you can talk to in the middle of the night (when you could afford a hp), someone who understands you (when your friends are screwed up), then for companionship (when you work and get bored of everyday life) and ultimately for a life-long partner (marriage). Okay, timeline is inaccurate, but you get my drift.
On the other hand, emotionally, you're much more stable and focused. You think long-term and whatever you do will affect your relationship. You learn to be accepting to people and their negativities and learn to cope with whatever you have in hand. A bad thing can be turn into a good thing with just a change of thinking. And perhaps, who knows, that person might be your destiny.
There's always a good side and a bad side to everything even in something as divine as religion (no alcohol?), straightforward like candy (makes you fat, but yummmmy) or something as complicated as a relationship. What matters is you make full use of your life and your youth because it doesn't stay with you forever.
The Grass is Always Greener on the other Side of the Fence, how you make your patch of grass greener is by watering the lawn. Enjoy!
Other people’s circumstances seem more desirable than one’s own.
You could put it in a relationship context, in everyday life, your career and other things. But for now, let's relate to b-g relationships where I spend a good part of my life in.
There's this friend of mine. Who at every moment we meet, he'd tell me how he wished to have my kind of lifestyle. Stable relationship, no detours (detours == women in this context), good education and only a handful of super close knit buddies to upkeep. Initially I do not understand what he meant (come on, with so many women in your life, it must be heaven!), but as time goes by, I'm slowly grasping the deep meaning underlying his sayings.
Sure, my grass might be greener to him, but if you were to ask me, I wished my life had been easier to bear. Stable and long relationships are good, but you gotta admit that it might have been foolish to put aside your younger years to get to know more people. You wished you could've met someone with a complete package. Perhaps, who knows with a stroke of luck, you could find someone who shares a similar interest (In my case, gaming, outdoors, swimming, camping, diving, cycling, fixing stuff, navigation) or much more physically pleasant.
Secondly, long term relationships starts usually when you are young, and you are not as mature and your intentions on why you get yourself in this relationship can change over time. First you might get into one because you need someone to go out or study with (O-levels, A-levels, Diploma), then perhaps into someone you can talk to in the middle of the night (when you could afford a hp), someone who understands you (when your friends are screwed up), then for companionship (when you work and get bored of everyday life) and ultimately for a life-long partner (marriage). Okay, timeline is inaccurate, but you get my drift.
On the other hand, emotionally, you're much more stable and focused. You think long-term and whatever you do will affect your relationship. You learn to be accepting to people and their negativities and learn to cope with whatever you have in hand. A bad thing can be turn into a good thing with just a change of thinking. And perhaps, who knows, that person might be your destiny.
There's always a good side and a bad side to everything even in something as divine as religion (no alcohol?), straightforward like candy (makes you fat, but yummmmy) or something as complicated as a relationship. What matters is you make full use of your life and your youth because it doesn't stay with you forever.
The Grass is Always Greener on the other Side of the Fence, how you make your patch of grass greener is by watering the lawn. Enjoy!
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