The 2-week holiday wasn't just any ordinary holiday. Sure, there was the day trip overseas, reunions with old friends, a few jungle safaris in the gardens and going on a fully-paid shopping spree. But besides the customary pleasantries, there comes a time in life, when somebody unknowingly:
1) gives advice that hit right at the spot.
2) utters a fleeting remark that keeps us in deep thought.
3) explained an analogy that best represented a scenario.
It happened several times during the short stint and it left an awe-struck feeling learning about the level of thinking maturity residing in a person so young. Perhaps, the lack of initial interest to related psychological disciplines may have contributed to the dumbstruck reaction. Most likely as a whole, it is always exciting to learn of a theory that explains a situation once thought ambiguous. Or being given the opportunity to have a conversation with a person that could explain something useful. The lesson that was drawn from this particular individual shall be aptly named "Maturity and Foul Play."
The lesson explains why older men, favour younger women primarily because of innocence and not possessing the 'yet to acquire ability' to comprehend more mature factors that affect mate selection (eg. financial stability, family compatibility, age to get married). The men are not scrutinised, interrogated, or examined during courtship and everything seems like a path lined with roses. Upon the woman reaching that specific age however, the ability is acquired and the relationship soon comes to a make or break point. She will start asking herself if the man can give her what she is looking for, mate suitability, hereditary diseases, societal behaviours, etc. When a breakup occurs, this is called foul play. As such, it was advised that men look for mates that have passed the specific age, to ensure that both sides know what each other wants from the relationship and know what they are diving into.
What made this lesson worthy of mention was at that point of time, its relevance affected everyone in the discussion. Coincidence? Perhaps. In my opinion, its just another logical explanation to breakups because essentially, there is no point mulling over spilt milk and many a times, lessons should have come sooner rather than later. However, mistakes do accentuate the seriousness of such life lessons and stay imprinted in the mind much longer. So thankfully we made the mistake.
With that lesson in mind, here's a great start to adult life...
1) gives advice that hit right at the spot.
2) utters a fleeting remark that keeps us in deep thought.
3) explained an analogy that best represented a scenario.
It happened several times during the short stint and it left an awe-struck feeling learning about the level of thinking maturity residing in a person so young. Perhaps, the lack of initial interest to related psychological disciplines may have contributed to the dumbstruck reaction. Most likely as a whole, it is always exciting to learn of a theory that explains a situation once thought ambiguous. Or being given the opportunity to have a conversation with a person that could explain something useful. The lesson that was drawn from this particular individual shall be aptly named "Maturity and Foul Play."
The lesson explains why older men, favour younger women primarily because of innocence and not possessing the 'yet to acquire ability' to comprehend more mature factors that affect mate selection (eg. financial stability, family compatibility, age to get married). The men are not scrutinised, interrogated, or examined during courtship and everything seems like a path lined with roses. Upon the woman reaching that specific age however, the ability is acquired and the relationship soon comes to a make or break point. She will start asking herself if the man can give her what she is looking for, mate suitability, hereditary diseases, societal behaviours, etc. When a breakup occurs, this is called foul play. As such, it was advised that men look for mates that have passed the specific age, to ensure that both sides know what each other wants from the relationship and know what they are diving into.
What made this lesson worthy of mention was at that point of time, its relevance affected everyone in the discussion. Coincidence? Perhaps. In my opinion, its just another logical explanation to breakups because essentially, there is no point mulling over spilt milk and many a times, lessons should have come sooner rather than later. However, mistakes do accentuate the seriousness of such life lessons and stay imprinted in the mind much longer. So thankfully we made the mistake.
With that lesson in mind, here's a great start to adult life...
2 comments:
wow you sound ver wise.I find it difficult to digest your thoughts
And I find it very difficult to put thoughts into words. Hope you are entertained at least.
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